“Some rise by sin, and some by virtue fall.” Fujifilm X-T1. 23mm.
You have to have your x-factor. What’s yours? I’m talking about the thing that makes you just slightly different than everyone else. Not better, mind you. Unique. If you don’t have an x-factor, practice.
Some people think it comes easy. Or you’re born with it. Which is the same thing. Could be. There’s some biological advantages people are born with, for sure. Like symmetrical faces. Quicker reaction time. But that’s biology and I’m talking about X-factors, not X-Men. Nobody has a biological advantage that unique. Not a useful one anyway. I did know a kid in grade school with webbed hands.
But here on dry land, you have to work for the x-factor. And a lot of times it comes out of a survival instinct. Great orators might have gotten that way from lying a lot. We’ll never know. That’s their secret. Me, I was always building a case when I was a kid, because my mom was such a good arguer. You had to rehearse if you wanted anything. If you came unprepared, you were dead. And embarrassed. I rehearsed. I still rehearse. Here’s a secret. When I’m by myself, I turn the radio off in my car and rehearse. For what? Anything. And I listen to myself and I think, “You sound like an idiot.” And then I rehearse it again. That’s my x-factor - I’m more rehearsed than you think I’ll be. So when I get in a situation, I can hold my own.
A Rolls Royce radiator grill is a special kind of thing. Made completely by hand and arranged by eye, without any measuring devices. That takes practice. But that grill, of course, is about more than straight lines. It’s about ascension. About tall gates and wealth and social class. There’s a quote about the difference between Pontiac grills and Rolls Royce grills. In the end, that grill is what you’re buying because it says you’ve made it - you have that x-factor. Body styles change, colors are subjective. But the grill is trademarked and permanent.
People get to places by different means. And, as Shakespeare says, “some rise by sin, and some by virtue fall.” So, there’s no specific road to get you there. You need something different. Something that sets you apart and makes you unique. Every other part of you can be plain as a pikestaff, but that one thing - that’s something people don’t see every day. You’ve got one. Practice it.